i’ve written before about my insecurities about feeling worthy unless i’m mind-numbingly busy. Well, my busyness is that: MIND NUMBING. I decide on a whole list of chores, put on talk radio, and work throughout the day on various random things on my to-do list. When I first went on school break it was nice to do things around the house and tinker with little projects but I quickly found myself feeling AGAIN THE GNAWING FEELING of omg omg omg…here I am alone, vulnerable with my thoughts, and I just can’t stand it anymore.
So I decided to look for a therapist. Just now. Literally.. I googled it and narrowed my search down to one woman that seemed nice, left her a message, and I guess we can see how it goes..
I know that part of my issue I’m having is boredom. I start school again on the 19th yet, I can’t help but think.. Is everyone else bored or are they enjoying their time off? Does everyone else feel the need to work themselves into the ground? Does everyone else beat themselves up about every encounter that ever freaking happened??
Sometimes I feel like I’m going to throw up when I’m alone with my thoughts and memories. When I was younger, I wanted to make sure I had as much fun as I possibly could. I wanted this for two reasons: 1. I didn’t have much fun growing up because I was a nervous wreck. 2. I was terrified of having a mid-life crisis because I didn’t have any fun.
My fun time lasted from about 18-26. I drank A LOT, I did a lot of drugs, and I had no inhibitions. At first, I felt like my cup was full after I had my “fun.” I felt relaxed kind of like I took a big deep breath, and I didn’t feel the need to run around the town. Unfortunately, All the insecurities from my past never went away and I just drank myself to sleep everyday for 5 years. Even though I only got sober-ish 6 months ago, I can’t believe that my “good or light” drinking days meant I drank a bottle of white wine. THAT WAS LIGHT DRINKING! I showed up to life everyday hungover and out of it. I only quit drinking because I honestly think that the booze was starting to get to my deep brain. I started hearing things, seeing things, I didn’t feel steady enough on my damn feet to walk out of the house.
Now with my sobriety I have a constant rush of memories in my brain that I don’t like. Memories of things I did or said, things I didn’t say, and a lot of “what if.” Some of these are big memories that swirl round and round, some are small stupid things no one would ever fucking remember…….
I’m ready to get through this stage of my sober journey. I feel like I have done as much as I can by myself, now i need someone elses help.